|This is how I feel about motherhood. It's overwhelming how much I love our little nugget.|
And it just isn't feeling like enough.
As a lawyer, I don't have the kind of job that can be shared with someone else so I can't just go part-time (the work arises when it does and often cannot be pushed off for a day or two). But I am productive and focused when I am at work and I think I could get my work done in a shorter period of time, which would allow me to see more of B. Right now I am considering asking to work 8 to 3 and to finish up anything that needs to get done urgently after B goes to bed.
I'm wondering if any of you have asked for reduced hours or a big change in your work situation? Do you have any suggestions for how best to approach the conversation?
One thing I keep reminding myself is that I'll never know what is possible unless I ask. The answer may be "no," but it may not be.
And the following quote reminded me why finding the balance that works for me is so very important. I don't want to lose myself, but what matters most to my heart is spending time with B.
By the way, both of these posters are from the artist Susan O'Malley who did an amazing project where she asked people on the street to give the advice they thought their 80-year-old self would give. I love the responses. In heart-wrenching news, she passed away in March at 39 weeks pregnant with twins and lost both of her girls, too. I cannot even imagine how her husband is surviving.