Phew. Another deep breath over here. My second beta came back at 151. I'll wait now until what should be the 6 week mark and have an ultrasound to see if there is a heartbeat and things are developing appropriately.
I have a dear friend who went through years of struggling to get pregnant and is about to have her second baby thanks to IVF. We have been a constant source of support for one another over the last 3 years with our various struggles. She said to me the other day that she thinks I might be one of the most fertile of her friends. She and I are very close and I know she didn't mean anything negative about what she said, but the comment has been repeating in my head since she made it. And it makes me feel guilty.
R and I tried for almost a year to get pregnant the first time, and in the middle of that year I found out that I have Premature Ovarian Failure (POF) (now they call it Primary Ovarian Insufficiency, but once someone tells you that you have a condition with the word "failure" in it, it tends to stick with you). I was told verbatim that we were "never going to have a child using my eggs." My own OB (who I consider a dear friend at this point) told me that I should use donor eggs. Everything was so incredibly grim, as many of you can relate. And then it got worse after I had my surprise pregnancy with Q and we lost her. I thought I had already hit rock bottom when we got the infertility news, but little did I know...
And then we got lucky again.
But here's the thing... I don't know how much this helps/matters, but the first two times I got pregnant, I had an ultrasound (coincidentally) the day I was about to ovulate. I happen to have gone in for ultrasounds for another reason (in both cases b/c I was having an extremely long cycle and we were seeing if I had a cyst or some other issue), only to see an ovary entirely covered by an egg. Both times the sonographer and doctor said it could be an egg or it could be a cyst, but if an egg I was about to ovulate, so it was time to "get busy." So, yes, I've been pregnant twice without intervention, but I did have really good intel as to timing intercourse, not to mention doing acupuncture, taking supplements, having changed my diet, etc.
I didn't have an ultrasound recently, but I have been tracking my cycles, taking DHEA and various other supplements, and generally being healthy with exercise, eating right, and not drinking. And I have been getting my period since November so it has been almost six months.
I'm being incredibly inarticulate, but somehow I'm feeling guilty about her comment and generally about writing a blog about infertility and loss when I've now had 3 BFPs. Sure, I have only one living child right now (and now the hope for one more) and certainly we've been through the ringer, but I can think back to how I felt 3 years ago when I got the POF diagnosis and how hopeless I felt and I think I might have been totally irked if I read my own blog at that time. Either that, or it might inspire hope, which I hope is the case.
Regardless, I just want to say that despite losing Q and struggling through the devastation that is having a stillborn child, I do feel lucky that we got pregnant again, against all odds. Please don't think that for one second I forget how fortunate I am and how grateful I am for our little B.
My ultrasound is scheduled for March 28th. Fingers (and legs) are crossed.